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  • Writer's pictureDanny Zane

A Guide for Recognising and Transforming Narcissistic Tendencies

Acknowledging and wanting to change one's narcissistic traits is a significant step towards personal growth. It can be very difficult to see ourselves through this lense and recognise a narcissist within us. Wanting to help ourselves out of this position rather then seeing everyone else as the issue often never happens.

As a person-centered therapist, I understand the complexities involved in this journey. This guide aims to help those who see themselves exhibiting narcissistic behaviors and are committed to transforming for the better.

Understanding Narcissism:

Narcissism is often misunderstood. It ranges from healthy self-love to harmful self-absorption impacting relationships negatively. Its roots can lie in various factors, including upbringing, societal influences, and personal experiences. Recognising its impact on oneself and others is crucial for change.

Self-Reflection and Recognition:

The journey begins with honest self-reflection. Identifying behaviors like a lack of empathy, a constant need for admiration, and difficulty in maintaining healthy relationships is key. Feedback from trusted individuals can provide valuable insights into behaviors that might be invisible to you.

The Path to Change:

Change starts with acknowledging one's vulnerabilities and flaws. Therapy, particularly person-centered therapy, can be instrumental in this process. It provides a safe space for exploring deep-seated emotions and patterns. Developing empathy, an essential step, involves actively trying to understand and feel what others are experiencing.

Practical Steps for Change:

Incorporating mindfulness into daily life helps in recognising and regulating narcissistic tendencies. Improving communication skills and actively engaging in empathetic listening are vital for healthier relationships. Setting achievable personal development goals and regularly assessing progress can guide this journey. Caring about and checking in with the people in your life can be a strong starting point.

Maintaining Progress and Overcoming Setbacks:

Growth is a continuous process. Celebrating small victories and learning from setbacks are part of this journey. Recognising the signs of relapse and having strategies to address them helps in maintaining progress.

Change is possible. Recognising narcissistic traits is a brave first step. As a person-centered therapist, I am committed to supporting individuals on this path, offering a non-judgmental space for exploration and growth.

How I Can Help:

- Therapeutic Support: Offering person-centered therapy, I provide a supportive environment for self-exploration and understanding.

- Developing Empathy: Through guided exercises and discussions, I help individuals cultivate empathy and improve their relationships.

- Personalised Strategies: Each journey is unique. I work to develop personalised strategies that cater to individual needs and goals.

- Ongoing Support: Change is not linear. I offer continuous support, helping navigate challenges and celebrate progress.

Call to Action:

If you see yourself in this way and have noticed how you behave in relationships and are now seeking change, remember that you're not alone. I am here to support you on this journey. Let's work together towards a healthier, more empathetic you.

I grew up with a narraccistist care giver and as such offer lived expereince from my own journey.

See me in my therapy practice in Harley Street, C entral London, Finchley, North London or online.


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